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Changing Habits

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36519935_mEliminating Routines.

Got any HABITS?

We all do.

We all get settled into little habits and routines in our daily lives.

Hell even the way you brush your teeth or take a shower is a repeatable, step by step, PROCESS that you probably do exactly the same way every… single… day…

And that’s cool. The “habit forming mechanism” of your Unconscious Mind does that for a reason. When you don’t have to THINK about something consciously, it can be handled most efficiently and effectively by your unconscious mind.

Think Time and Energy Savings…

A good thing.

UNLESS…

Unless… you are STUCK in a rut of habits and comfort zone safety that you “theoretically” want to break out of so you can experience more joy, more love, more health, more money, more FREEDOM.

If you DO desire to reach a place of fluid, resourceful empowerment, you might want to watch this video…

It’s about “Eliminating Routines”  where I explain why small, intentional, incremental changes are good for you and How to embrace change in a way that gently and steadily creates multiple layers of positive results in every area of your life…

Here’s the video:

Your assignment today is to play with interrupting one small, almost un-noticable routine or habit.

Sometimes I play with brushing my teeth with my non-dominant hand, other days I change up my food routines. It can be as simple as going for a walk in a different park or neighborhood.

It can be doing anything you don’t usually do. Drive a different way to work today… do something, anything different… It could be listening to the music your kids are into (or your parents are into). It could be doing something totally out of character like having a conversation with a total stranger on a street corner about the recent total eclipse of the moon. Whatever.

Just play with mixing SOMETHING up a bit today.

Once we get in the HABIT of interrupting HABITS. We are less and less victims of being “stuck” in old ones that no longer serve us.

Got it? Awesome!

See you on the INSIDE!

-Mark

p.s. HEY! a huge “Transformation Nation” shout out to all the Awesome Beta Testers who have helped My friend Michael Guerin and I get some of the log in details and accessibility improvements in place for the new CRUSH anxiety NOW! We moved the course from where it WAS to this website right here, HonestHypnosis.com. From now on whenever you action takers want to log in to one of the courses you’ve purchased, you can just click on the members tab at the top of this site or if you’re not here yet, go to HonestHypnosis.com and click the “members” tab which will take you to the log in form and then on to your course materials.

This was a carefully considered CHANGE OF ROUTINE for all of us from my decision to bring all of my courses under one, single, unifying idea: That everything I do, musically, artistically, professionally, is about Transformation and Personal Empowerment. BOOM! INSTANTLY, all the different areas of expertise and interest, talent and passion, are “on the same team”. So thank you for participating in the beginning of a HUGE master plan designed to bring powerful self help and self hypnosis tools to the lives a people all over the globe who are ready and willing to invest in themselves to get the results they want in their lives.

Whew! Didn’t know I was feeling so passionate about that! But I AM. I LOVE this! Thank you!

P.P. S. Also a HUGE shout out of thanks to by dear friend and supporter, Michael Guerin, who is helping me with all the technical stuff and web stuff, so that I can focus on helping YOU. If you ever need help with wordpress websites and deep Search Engine Optimization stuff  check out his site at BestWebPresence.com

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Would You Be Willing

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What would you be willing to do to stop being shy?

  • Would you be willing to get messy?
  • Would you be willing to make a fool of your self?
  • Would you be willing to be wrong without beating yourself up for it?

For example: Would you be willing to be wrong about that woman that you have that huge crush on being so “perfect” for you? Would you be willing to be wrong that there are just no other women you’d want to be with?

And what if she is just “Wrong” for you? What if you are wrong about what people think about you? What if you are wrong about what you think about them? What if you got absolutely fabulous at being wrong?

And BTW, What if you were also wrong about being shy? What if you could totally and completely be over it.

Faster. Easier. More permanently than you ever thought possible… (guess you might like being wrong huh?)

Watch the video and let me know when you are ready to get over this shyness crap. (Cause it is crap you know).

What if you were better than you think?

If now is the time to take action click the button below…

How to stop being shy around beautiful women

Got questions? I have answers and I want you to have them, so…

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What Is Approach Anxiety?

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We hear the term a lot in the world of men, young and old…

Approach Anxiety

What is it? In it’s simplest form it is the anxiety felt by guys at the prospect of walking up to a woman and saying “hi!”.

Sounds ridiculous doesn’t it?

Dating and Seduction Guru Ross Jeffries tells the story of a friend of his who is an Air Traffic Controller. Cool as can be faced with dozens of airplanes full of people flying towards his airport control tower, he is powerful and in control. Put a beautiful woman in front of him and he goes to pieces. Hands tremble. Voice cracks. Feels sick to his stomach. The whole panic attack physiological response as if he is gonna die!

This is so much of a problem that a billion dollar industry was born.

This is great because somehow we guys are brought up in this culture mostly clueless as to how to interact with women in a way that is authentic and comfortable for both sexes.

The guys that seem to get the chicks are in many ways vastly inferior to what many good (but shy) men have to offer. The difference is that the “jerks” don’t really care what women think of them. They aren’t afraid of rejection. So they just wade in to the “shark infested waters” of approaching women and get the job done. Unfortunately they leave a lot of hurt and pissed off women in their wake. But they don’t take it personally because they do not care.

We don’t want to be like those bullies or jerks…

But we still want to be with awesome, hot, sexy women.

The shy guy in contrast to the “jerk”  is standing in the wings worried about what she will think. Worried about what the other people in the immediate vicinity will think. He’s worried about what to say. He’s worried about what not to say. He’s running movies in his mind of her snarling at him or humiliating him or just not responding.

Sometimes overcoming shyness is a painfully long process. But it doesn’t have to be.

One key ingredient in creating a shift in yourself is to examine what you are making things mean. In other words, if you say “hi” to an attractive woman and can’t think of anything else to say, you make it mean you are a “failure” a “loser.” You say harsh and critical things to yourself.

If another guy says “hi” to a woman and then crashes and burns, he pats himself on the back and gives himself credit for making progress.

Does that make sense?

BTW This is a Law of personal transformation. It applies in every area of your life. If you are moving out of your comfort zone and beat yourself up for everything you don’t do perfectly you will never make progress. I see this a lot with the anxiety sufferers I work with (both men and women).  The clients of mine who make the most progress the fastest are quick to learn how to be gentle with themselves in their learning curve.

Think about this. When you were learning to walk, you fell down. A lot. You didn’t curse yourself out or get depressed. You just freaking got back up and gave it another shot.

That’s a key point.

How can you take “baby steps” with this approach anxiety stuff that has your guts all twisted around?

One place to start is by saying “hi!” to everyone. And I mean EVERYONE. Everywhere you go. Make it a practice to say “hi”. Keep a record of how many times you said hi each day.

Once you get to the place where you can comfortably be the guy who is friendly to everyone.

If you can’t get yourself to say “hi” then you need some one on one coaching from me or you may need to get my Crush Anxiety program and learn the 7 key techniques that can blast any kind of anxiety (not just approach anxiety) in a few short minutes.

The bottom line is that you do not have to be miserable and alone. You can stop suffering today. So take some positive action step right now. Today. It’s simple. Just say “hi”…

If you are reading this in a coffee shop get up off your butt and go say “hi” to somebody right now.

Got it? Good. Do it.

If NOW is the right time to take action click the button below…

How to stop being shy around beautiful women

Got questions? I have answers and I want you to have them, so…

Let’s talk

How To Stop Crush Anxiety

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potrait of a sad guy in a yellow sweat shirtI got an email from one of my readers the other day and it poses some significant opportunities for all of us to stop being the victims of our emotional storms related to members of the opposite sex.

Most of us have had someone who we “fancy,” are enamored of, or who we have a “crush” on.

So this article should really be called, “How to CRUSH ‘Crush Anxiety.'”  But Let’s get to work, shall we?

“I am very anxious when i think of, talk to or wait for a message from my crush. I even get sick from the stress..i am a middle school student.I can’t fight it..what should i do?? Thanks”  – J

Interestingly enough, when I named my first anxiety program I was looking for a powerful positive verb to use in order to stop anxiety. Without realizing that there are folks who use the word “Crush Anxiety” to describe what happens when you get freaked out about a person you have a crush on, I went ahead and called it Crush Anxiety Now.

In order to Stop being crushed by Crush Anxiety, there are 3 areas to focus on (there are probably more but this is a freaking blog post not War and Peace).

First of all…

1. Why are you making this experience mean to you?

If you think of the person you have a crush on and imagine them not caring about you, or not knowing you exist or rejecting you, that will create all of those responses in your neurology as if they are real. Your unconscious mind, which is the source of all your emotions, does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined.

One of the key things I’ve learned from dating guru Ross Jeffries is there is a subtle mental shift that has to happen if we guys want to be successful with women. Even long term relationship stuff. We have to develop the attitude that: “Any woman I choose to be interested in or spend time with is lucky to be with me.”

It’s not an arrogance thing, it’s a self esteem thing.

What I see happening over and over again with shy guys is that they do this “I’m not worthy” thing in their minds. so of course the women they really want are on a level above them.

This is the first step in personal mastery in EVERY area of your life and my young friend who wrote me about this is in a great place in his life to learn this now. The younger you learn this the better.

The flip side of this equation is again from Ross Jeffries: “Any woman (or girl) who isn’t interested in me is just demonstrating her lack of good taste!”

Again it sounds a bit arrogant but if you take a moment and try this on for size it is a phenomenal tool for success in every area of life. “hey if i express interest in a woman and she’s not into me, that’s just proof that she doesn’t have what it takes to appreciate quality.” it works for those job interviews where you don’t get hired. If you tell yourself “That’s it! No one will ever hire me. They REJECTED me.” you are going to feel very bad.

But if you tell yourself, “Hey they just didn’t appreciate all the qualities I have to bring to the job. Too bad for them. Their loss!” You will have the energy to get back out there and find someone who DOES appreciate your abilities.

It’s the same with those we want to be with romantically. And BTW this goes for all you ladies who write to me as well.

This is a non-gender specific thing.

The second thing is…

2. Are you making this person the only possible partner for you?

In order to do that you have to literally erase the cold hard fact that there are billions and billions of people in this world; half of whom are of the opposite sex. That’s a lot of other possibilities you’re blocking from your awareness.

To my friend “J”, I want to say, “Dude you are only in middle school! Do you seriously think that she’s the only girl you’ll ever be attracted to?”

My suggestion here is to imagine floating out into your future and turning and looking back from your 20’s and see how young and innocent you are right now. Float further out into your future and look back from your thirties and see how many women you’ve had to be with in order to learn about this mysterious race of beings called “women”.

Now go out into your 90’s and look back with fondness for when this seemed so important to you. Trust me, in your 90’s you’ll just be happy to have a decent bowel movement. I mean this with gentleness and sincerity. You’ve got to take charge of your own mind and put this stuff into perspective. I do a lot of this kind of Time Line work in my coaching sessions.

It can really help to get a different view.

At some point…

3. You have to learn how to get over attachment or “fixation” on other people.

Life is full of disappointment.

The only cause of suffering is our attachment. People and things come and go. Nothing is permanent.  All the spiritual masters of the world have made this point. Learn to let go when you’re young. You might as well start today.

A good question to ask yourself is, “How am I causing my own suffering in this situation?”

The next question should be, “How can I learn from this and let it go?”

You actually don’t even have to answer the questions. Just ask them and your unconscious mind will do the rest.

You might also ask yourself, “How many other wonderful girls/women have I not been aware of because of my fixation on this one female?” Make a list of all the other interesting, attractive women you can think of in your social circles. Then ask yourself, “how many amazing women have I not even met yet?” Again just consider those questions seriously. It will change your perspective big time.

4. What was it like before you ever met this person?

Seriously.

Imagine the day before you met this girl/woman. Were you devastated because you didn’t know she existed?

No! You weren’t thinking about her because you hadn’t met her yet. Go back there in your mind and see what you saw, feel what you felt and talk to yourself the way you did the day before this chick entered your world. You were fine weren’t you?

The bottom line is that it takes as much energy to make ourselves miserable as it does to make our lives magical. And we are the ones making ourselves feel whatever it is we are feeling, both positive and negative. That knowledge gives you tremendous power. Whatever you have created in your life, you can create more of the same or something better.

Now. All that being said, which guy do you think the most desirable women in the world want to be with?

  1. The guy who is all twisted up in his guts and worried about what she thinks of him or what she does or doesn’t do…, or
  2. The guy that is at ease with himself and confident that if a woman he is interested in doesn’t “get” what he has to offer, someone else even hotter will.

Subtle Hint: The answer is #2!

That’s all the time I have left to talk about this today but hopefully that’s enough to get you thinking.

There are a couple of programs that you might find helpful, so here are the links to them:

How to Crush Anxiety for Good

or

How to Get Over a Girl

Becoming a more confident guy is not an instant fix. But it can happen a lot faster if you actually get some help along the way.

How to stop being shy around beautiful women

I have years of experience helping people overcome fears, phobias and anxiety. If you can’t even get yourself to talk to a woman, I can help you stop stopping yourself.

Got questions? I have answers and I want you to have them, so…

Let’s talk