Master Your Mind... for a Change
This was really helpful to remember. How we motivate ourselves to change our own behavior is the crucial difference between being a “victim” and a “victor.”
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Yeah. That’s what this is. It’s literally a hypnosis session in a song format…THIS is why they call me the “Singing Hypnotist”…
Even if this song is not your favored musical style, listen to it over and over again… or watch it over and over again… there have been days and weeks when I just had it playing softly in the background. Your unconscious mind hears EVERYTHING. So USE that. Let this get stuck in your head. “Ear Worms” don’t have to be annoying they can be powerful tools to keep you on track without you having to consciously THINK about it.
Also, remember that most performance issues are based on some pattern or habit of anxious thinking. Anxiety is thinking about what you do NOT want to have happen and your body responding to that powerful suggestion with all the same fight or flight chemistry that real bad events would cause if they were actually happening… to learn more about how you can take charge of your own “head trash” and DUMP it, check out my best selling online hypnosis course, “How to CRUSH anxiety NOW!”
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Almost every Fall I get calls from desperate parents of peak performance high school and college athletes desperate for help. The usual scenario is that their daughter or son suddenly can’t do something that they used to be able to do. Call it a mental block or a performance “glitch,” Chuck Knobloch syndrome, or being a “head case,” it’s a cause of deep pain and concern. Whether it’s a specific tumble or move in gymnastics, cheerleading, baseball, figure skating, or even in the arts of Ballet, music or theater, they used to do this one thing spectacularly but now they can’t seem to do it at all. At stake is often hundreds of dollars in college scholarships or championship games that they will be “benched” for, the pain and suffering is real. The pressure is real. The pattern is starting to sink in and depression and discouragement are getting heavier and heavier.
The solution is not to search the world wide web for some “miracle worker” or sports psychologist or hypnotist who can “fix” it. The solution is for the student to learn to run their own mind.
That’s where I come in. Most of the “experts” have never experienced anything remotely like the blocks or neurological interference that these athletes or performers are experiencing.
I have.
In fact I never even had a chance to became an athlete because I did exactly the kinds of things with my mind in elementary school that caused me to want to quit that these kids are doing NOW.
I also did the same self sabotaging neurological processes with my musical performing.
But ultimately I had to learn how to run my OWN mind.
So that’s what I do with athletes. I first explore with them HOW they are doing the problem. This is usually an unconscious process until I help them to tease it out of themselves.
Then I can teach them the same tools that I’ve used now for over 20 years and that I’ve taught to countless others in person and online.
My suggestion if you or your child is struggling with this is to check out my “How To CRUSH anxiety NOW!” course and practice those tools and techniques.
Sports performance blocks are 99% of the time Performance Anxiety. Anxiety is focusing your mind on what you DO NOT want to have happen. Changing your focus is a PRACTICE that anyone can do. But most people don’t realize that THEY are the cause of their blocks or what in the world they can do to break through them and get back to winning.
Anyway, THIS song is actually a hypnosis session all about this. Give it a listen. No. It’s not “hip hop.” It’s not the most modern “cool” crunchy urban grunge rhythm. But it DOES work.
It works because it’s filled with “Why” and “how” questions which combined with music get “stuck” in the rostromedial prefrontal cortex of your brain.
The Victory Song
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Have you ever wondered why credit cards are so addictive?
It’s a highly hypnotic process that fools us into spending more than we have for things we think we have to have right now.
As a highly suggestible hypnotic subject, I have fallen for the credit card scheme too many times. Back in the late 1980’s I actually bought a house with credit cards… remind me to tell you that story some day…. but in the meantime this short video is almost humorous.
One of the projects I’m working on right now is a program called, “The Hypnosis of Money” and it seems like the entire WORLD is drowning in so many layers and types of debt that the whole thing is literally a “hall of Mirrors in a House of Cards…”
Watch for my new song and music video, “Welcome to Amerika” coming soon!
If you have any questions about how hypnosis can help you to change the financial habits and patterns that have held you prisoner for so long reach out to me! I promise to respond personally.
Did you know that an increasing number of people are being diagnosed with Fatty Liver Disease who aren’t alcoholics?
One of the challenges I have as a hypnotist with weight loss clients is countering the multi billion dollar bombardment of misinformation and mass hypnosis of the food industry.
I just watched this short video and thought I’d share it with you so you could see what we’re up against in the disinformation war.
I can’t tell you how many weight loss clients I’ve worked with since 2002 who said to me, “But I AM eating healthy!”
Then it turns out they were consuming a bunch of foods “marketed” as healthy, like sweetened yogurt, “heart healthy whole grain cereal,” sports drinks, fruit juices, energy bars etc. Or they were eating out a lot. It turns out there is fructose in a lot of condiments, salad dressings, sauces, etc.
I even explored those weight loss shakes and surprise! One of the main ingredients?
Fructose, (which sounds healthy cuz it comes from fruit right? )
Wrong.
Despite any number of hypnosis sessions, if a person continues to be influenced by the media to BELIEVE orange juice and granola for breakfast are “healthy” and doesn’t actually CHANGE what they eat, it’s not going to get through. Does that make sense? It’s not just about portion control. And “organic” brands are STILL full of sugar. I just looked at the label of a jar of salsa and one of the main ingredients was “Organic Evaporated Cane Sugar” as if the diced tomatos weren’t already sweet enough! And this video points out that every Cane Sugar molecule is comprised of a sucrose molecule and a fructose molecule. Even Honey has it.
So once you know about this, the next question is what do you DO about it? How do you break the trance the master marketers have used to make the entire world obese?
THAT’S where hypnosis can help. It’s about YOU becoming the master of your own MIND.
And I’m right here with you. I’m just a little ahead of you on the learning curve.
As I have gradually and sometimes inconsistently eliminated more and more simple carbs and sugar sources from my own diet I’ve
a. lost 30 pounds
b. had more energy and
c. my MIND has continued to be clearer.
Would those 3 outcomes be of interest to you?
In my own process of clearing the health myths and misinformation out of my own mind and body, I created what is arguably my most comprehensive self hypnosis course, “It’s Not Just About The Food.”
It’s not just about losing weight. It’s about changing the multiple factors that combine to make us fat and keep us stuck.
It’s all about supporting yourself in getting OUT of the “manufactured food trance”, of the American Diet and taking charge of your own your own mind and body.
I also continue to explore how to get the weight off and keep it off without having to spend 4 hours in the gym every day, without counting calories, without being hungry and deprived, without having to weigh your food or going to expensive weekly support groups…
One of the things I explore in the course is how to “trick” yourself into finding ways to move your body that are so joyful and fun you can’t wait to do it again. so enjoyable that you sometimes even FORGET about eating… I was FOOD OBSESSED for most of my life so if you can relate it’s pretty cool to no longer be obsessed.
I also cover how to make the transition to whole foods that actually HEAL your body reduce your risk of diabetes and make you feel full and satisfied.
Stuff like that.
I hope this is helpful to you.
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Here’s the direct link to the course again: It’s Not Just About The Food!
Hey Guys,
One of my endless quests here at Honest Hypnosis is to understand what is REALLY going on between the ears of modern men and women. Look around. Most men AND women seem to be confused, frustrated and miserable.
LONELINESS IS RAMPANT PEOPLE!
Marriages don’t last. Relationships start out with lots of love and devolve into quiet desperation. I see so many guys who are in a lot of pain because they can’t seem to attract the kinds of women they actually want. And I see a lot of women who can’t seem to find ANY men. All they see are whiny, desperate, porn addicted BOYS.
This short video presents a compelling argument against the extremes of masculine “roles” or archetypes. On the one hand are guys who have bought into the idea that they must sacrifice themselves to PROVIDE for the woman… and the classic “alpha, bad boy, jerk” who basically wants to spread his genes EVERYWHERE. These bad boys couldn’t care less about a woman as anything other than a convenient receptacle for their sperm…
What do YOU think?
As a man, when I “fancy” a woman. I DO want to take care of her and provide for her. I want to be her hero. AND I want to practice making babies ALLL the fucking time. But after years of “practicing” and “failure” a few things have become clear.
A true alpha male is able to bring both of these energies to the “romantic table.” He is powerful AND compassionate. He is a LEADER who is passionate about his LIFE. And high quality women want to be a part of his life… But he qualifies THEM.
A few keys to flipping the frame are simple (but not easy).
As a man who adores women. I’ve struggled with this dichotomy for a long time. My mother “hypnotized” me into attempting to becoming “the good man.” She was an ardent feminist who convinced me that wanting to have sex with women without being in a monogamous relationship first was “bad.”
“Don’t look at women like their pieces of meat!” she would exhort…
So of course the more she told me not to… the more I wanted to… but that served to convince me that somehow I was a bad man for wanting to look at women’s bodies.
Huh? Yeah. Can you relate?
Sex was supposed to be the ultimate expression of love. Sex without love was misogynistic and evidence of the oppressive male dominant “Patriarchy” that was the cause of everything bad that ever happened to women (according to my mother and other feminists at the time).
Women say they want this wonderful guy who treats them like a princess. Who is sensitive to their needs. Who is there for them. Who shows up. Who they can count on. Who they feel safe with. Who isn’t only interested in them for the sex etc.
But their unconscious minds discount this guy as a “sucker.” A woman’s unconscious genetic programming is looking for good genetics, protection, and provision. THIS is the female survival strategy.
And it worked like a charm for the first couple of million years.
The strongest men, the best hunters, the leaders, the bravest warriors, the survivors stimulated a female’s desire to mate… and those guys got the most desire-able women. Those women got the most desire-able men. It was a win/win.
BUT. Those guys didn’t always live a long time. They were risk takers. They were often in harm’s way.
So to SURVIVE and help her children to SURVIVE, she HAD to have a “back up plan” which usually works out to couple of “nice guy wanna be’s” (beta males) waiting in the wings for when the chief got bumped off…
Being physically weaker than warrior males, women had to use indirect forms of power to get what they needed to protect themselves and their children. They had to be flexible. They had to be able to switch sides at a moment’s notice. They had to be able to keep men interested and “on the hook” often without giving up their edge which was the possibility of mating…
For the survival of the species.
But now? WTF?
Things are confusing to most good men. Ethical, caring, compassionate men. Men who are fully in support of a woman’s equality and right to choose. Men who applaud women as they accomplish more and more in the formerly male arena of achievement.
And THOSE high achieving warrior women? Who are THEY attracted to? Are they attracted to this wonderful nice guy who is so encouraging and supportive?
Sorry guys.
Amazing women are attracted to MEN not BOYS.
Amazing women are attracted to men who are even more badass than THEY are.
So guys. If you want high quality, high status, hot, smart, amazing women, be prepared to change your approach to the entire field of dating, romance, and love.
And that starts with your MIND. It starts with questioning what you were taught by your parents, teachers, church, etc.
Great love is still possible.
In fact deep, satisfying, intimate, fun, sexy, romantic, heathy relating IS possible. But being a “nice guy” isn’t going to get it for you. And being an “Asshole Jerk” is just a false act of puffed up machismo bravado that may get you laid but not loved.
The key is to “Pledge allegiance to your self for the sake of your own health.” (from my song “Freedom” from my “Key To Your Cage” album)
Focus on what YOU want out of YOUR life. Seek out and pursue YOUR PURPOSE. And your purpose is not to provide everything for a women’s ease and benefit just because she happens to be pretty.
Your purpose is ultimately the thing you will not give up for ANYONE.
Not a woman, not your parents. No one and nothing. A woman can beautifully compliment your purpose. But if YOU don’t have a purpose for your life, someone else will attempt to hijack it for THEIR purposes.
My purpose is to create a life where I can make the kind of music I want to make, the way I want to make it, WHEN I want to make it. Everything I do for over 40 years now has been to serve that purpose. All the hypnosis stuff. All the research into human behavior, health, healing etc. everything has always been me attempting to clear the crap that stood in the way of this purpose. One day I realized that my patterns with women and relationships were part of the problem. My mother didn’t support me being a musician and everything I internalized from her said, “give up your dream. Provide for your family. Sacrifice for the feminine imperative.”
A man MUST challenge this shit. A Man MUST seek out his purpose FIRST.
YOUR PURPOSE is something that energizes and attracts you MORE than any woman ever could. Your PURPOSE is something bigger than you. Something endlessly fascinating and emotionally compelling. It’s something that your woman has to accept about you. Something that she knows comes FIRST. BEFORE HER.
If a woman tries to get you to put aside your purpose and take on hers instead, you have just lost her. It was a test.
If you tell her “no!” (and mean it) you have just made yourself even more attractive to her. Does that make any kind of sense?
What the best women truly want is a man who is complete, empowered, self directed, strong, healthy, and NOT CONTROLLABLE by a woman.
And women subconsciously test this all the time. YOUR job as a man is to work on YOURSELF, FOR YOURSELF. Enjoy women. Appreciate them. Delight in their company. But stop chasing them. Stop giving them everything. Stop “selling” them on what a good guy you are. Stop supplicating. Stop begging. AND stop bullying and berating.
Instead BECOME the kind of man YOU dream about becoming. You will discover that the authentic man you truly are is the man they DREAM about.
This is not an “instant fix.” There is no “pickup line” that will magically deliver all the hottest women to you and keep them cumming back for more.
The progress and development of “senior male energy” as one of my former girlfriends called it, takes experience. Experience takes TIME.
And we are all running out of time. So it just might be time to get to work.
It’s time to get to work on YOU. Not on attempting to impress her, or women in general. You mastering YOU is the hottest thing you can do for HER.
It’s a bit of a paradox. But it’s an AMAZING win/win as this path with heart unfolds. YOU get to live a great life with lots of freedom and choices. SHE gets BOTH a provider AND a powerful man who is not chained to the “matrix”. She also gets a man that she clearly knows has lots of choices when it comes to women. This causes her to never take you for granted (which is good for both of you).
If you are open minded about mastering your mind for a change in this extremely vital area of your life, check out my “Better Man Blueprint.” It’s an ongoing program for self motivated men who want it all. At the moment it is not even available. other than through this link. It’s new. And I constantly add to it. It’s like having me in your corner of YOUR championship life.
A Better Man. A Better Life. Better Women. Less Strife.
Thoughts? Questions? Examples? I want to hear from you. Contact me.
I WILL answer.
– Mark
