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Your Hero Story

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36880993_sToday I talk about your hero story.

This is the map from your past of how you actually deal with adversity or unacceptable situations in your life that you found a way to resolve. Chances are you have made powerful, significant change at some point in your life. You just did most of it unconsciously. Today we are going to explore the pattern of transformation that seems to be somewhat universal.

You have a problem. A stuck place. You keep attempting to resolve it but it snaps back into place like the “Rubber band theory” we talked about last week.

At some point you get serious. SOMETHING DIFFERENT MUST HAPPEN.

And that’s when your unconscious mind gets the message that the same old pattern is no longer acceptable.

It’s like the kid who kind of ignores the parents polite and gentle, loving tone of voice to “stay away from the neighbors vicious dogs”.

The kind parent explains, “those dogs could jump that fence. Do not tease them…”

The kid doesn’t really register the danger or the urgency of this message until…

The parent gets INTENSE about it.

Changes the tone of voice.  Gets in the kids face. Makes penetrating intense eye contact.

HEY! STAY AWAY FROM THOSE DOGS! I’M SERIOUS. WHAT DID I JUST SAY?

and the kid has to repeat it back.

This is NOT about shaming the kid. It is about communicating the IMPORTANCE of that message and making it STICK.

So within your hero story is that necessary intensity that you had to go through until you finally had enough and did the same thing with your “inner child” aka your Unconscious Mind.

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Monday Morning Success Formula

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31095421_sFirst things first.

Ahhh the brutal blank page.

Staring at me. DEMANDING something new. Something helpful. Something uniquely powerful to give you a jolt, a jump-start, a juicy, joyful THROBBING, PULSING, positive idea, suggestion, challenge for your day.

How can what I’m about to write help you start your week with a thought so powerful that it totally transforms what would otherwise be a “ho hum” typical week of grinding out the greasy burgers of your own personal fast food franchise of a life into something better?

What can I say that will set you to FIERCELY, FOCUS the laser beam of your mind which you will use to cut the hardened steel of your limiting beliefs and negative habits?

How can what I’m about to write empower you to slice the raw diamonds of your life, so it shines brilliantly?

How can I inspire you to cut through the crap, the excuses, the wishful thinking, the shitty doubts, the “sensible” culturally mandated distractions that will suck your life force out of you relentlessly…

What is the One thing I can say that will guide you to your true “one thing”?

What can I say right now that will grab you by the balls and cause you to wake the fvck up to the power you COULD be wielding right now over any of life’s little challenges?

How can I give you such powerful value right now that you will want to join Team Cowabungah for life?

What can I write in the next 30-45 minutes that will support you in cranking up your mojo, making you wildly and delightfully attractive to the women you fantasize about? What can I write that will cause you to make a commitment to the Career path that will get you up early and keep you up late without caffeine?

What is it?

Any guesses?

The most powerful thing either you or I can do on any given Monday (or Sunday night) as you think ahead to your week, your month, your quarter, your year, your LIFE, is to ask POWERFUL QUESTIONS.

Did you get that?

Asking questions. But not just any questions. POWERFUL questions that PRESUPPOSE what it is you want your unconscious mind to give you.

“Why” and “How” Questions. “What if?” Questions. Even intelligent “What”.

For example

  • Why do I give incredible value to my Cowabungah guys today?
  • How can I create an online courses that blow all the others away?
  • How can I do an even better job to help my action taking Cowabungah guys totally destroy performance anxiety in the bedroom? In the board room? On stage?
  • What if I create content so authentic and compelling that it empowers guys to totally transform their lives so they can be, do and have what they truly want? Faster? Easier? Better? More sustainably? More authentically, More congruently?

And the answer to all of the above would be to start asking better questions. And keep asking better questions.

This is not new.

But the sad fact remains that a lot of guys (most guys) don’t know how they are consistently sabotaging their best efforts to succeed in all areas of their lives because they are asking the kinds of questions that literally program themselves for failure.

Shitty, victim questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” CANCEL THAT SHIT. NOW!

“Why does this always happen to me?”

So here is your assignment: (write these out by hand at least 10X each)

1. Why am I “on task” this week to get done what I most want to get done?
2. Why would any HOT woman be totally lucky to be with me sexually?
3. Why do I deeply and completely accept, love and value myself?
4. Why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine?
5. How can I take my “game” to the next level of excellence and brilliance and effectiveness in every area of my life?
6. What do I want to look back upon from my deathbed as having accomplished with my life? And how can I begin to do that right now? Today? This week? This minute?

You do NOT have to consciously answer these questions. NOPE. Just fvcking ask them. Consistently. Passionately. Intentionally.

Why would you do this assignment right now?

Why do you Ask better questions?  All the time?

Begin.

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Sexual Shame In Men

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31329260_sIt’s probably not the most popular subject for a men’s blog.

Sexual shame.

Isn’t that something women have?

If you have invested any time or effort attempting to understand women, you have to acknowledge that our culture has a MASSIVE double standard that women have to dance to sexually speaking.

On the one hand the media pumps out all this “sexy woman” content in order to grab our attention and get us to buy shit.

And it works. Click. Whir. Buzz. Ding. Cha-ching…

On the other hand women are more afraid of being called “sluts” than pretty much anything else.

So we have a culture that glorifies sex and denies it at the same time.

As far as we men go there is another double standard. If we are too obviously sexual we are treated as sexual stalkers and creeps. If we tone that side of ourselves down we get dumped into the “friend zone.”

As an NLP Practitioner working with men, I get a lot of highly intelligent, caring, loving, talented, passionate, guys who at some point in their lives got tangled up in some level of sexual shame. Unfortunately it usually manifests as “Performance Anxiety” or “Erectile Dysfunction. ” Sometimes it can result in extreme shyness or social anxiety.

(If this is you, you definitely need to check out my new course, “Master Your Mojo”. It will help you kick the ass of sexual shame and get back to  your birthright as a sexual god.)

But while women get a lot of social support for sexual trauma (as well as a lot of sympathy), we men usually keep our mouths shut and just suffer in silence.

In fact one of the tragic things about male sexual shame is that guys often will not talk about it even with the women they are in relationships with (if they even get that far).

I had a client not too long ago who was literally shamed as an adult by a woman who was pretty insensitive and downright humiliating. He eventually got away from her (be on the look out for my new course, “Break Up Like A Man”) but with his current girlfriend he just kept avoiding sex and she was starting to express dismay and frustration. I was astonished that he didn’t just talk to her about it. No.

He just kept avoiding the whole thing like the classic “Elephant in the Room” that no one mentions.

I have seen this pattern repeatedly in my practice. Guys keep what’s really going on for them to themselves. This frustrates their women even more than not being pounded by a hard penis. After all, there are a ton of ways to satisfy a woman sexually besides the classic penis in vagina program.

So no matter what may have happened in your childhood or teens or whenever, the only way out of the trap of self imposed misery is to actually talk about the problem. But we don’t want to just talk about it ad nauseum because like most forms of anxiety, re-hashing the problem usually reinforces it and makes it worse.

So first of all, we want to mostly talk about how natural and normal our sexual feelings and desires are… to ourselves.

That’s right.

There needs to be a shift in your own belief system so that you can dump the old belief that you have “sexual problems” and install a new more powerful belief that, you are a naturally and profoundly sexual being and it is your birthright to bring your sexual gifts to your woman (or women). AND that women are also naturally and profoundly sexual beings and it is their birthright to receive your gifts where and when appropriate. Mutual consent between caring adults is beautiful.

The next step once you cut yourself some slack is to open up to your woman about what is really going on with you. 99 times out of 100 the problem is between your ears NOT your legs and it is temporary. Every man at some point will experience a time when he wants to perform but the “little brother” is not in the mood. Stop dreading it and shaming yourself for it. It happens to ALL of us.

The good news is it is NOT  a FAILURE. It is an OPPORTUNITY.

When guys open up to their partners about their sexual trauma or anxiety, their women typically open up their hearts (and arms and legs) as well.

This is not about becoming a whiny complainer, or attempting to manipulate her into feeling sorry for you. No. It’s just a simple, “hey, I’ve had some trauma in this area and I wonder if we can talk about it so that we can open our hearts and move past it”

No woman on this planet who is worth being with would EVER turn down that opportunity.

Ultimately it is in your greatest vulnerability as a man that your greatest potential for virility and empowerment comes.

Once this “Cat is out of the bag”, there is nothing to be afraid of. You can relax. She can relax. And usually great sex follows.

It helps to have a massive throbbing arsenal of powerful mind mastery tools at your disposal as well. In “Master Your Mojo”, sexually adventurous, action taking members of Transformation Nation are discovering how to interrupt negative states and literally install peak performance sexual states into their own neurology so that they can instantly trigger the appropriate physiological response… Erect. Rock Hard. Massive. Pleasure.

AND what’s even better, once you understand how to do this for yourself, you can literally anchor HER peak sexual states as well so you can fire up her furnace of desire faster, easier better… whenever you want…

So my friend. If you have ever experienced any kind of sexual shame or trauma, it is NOT the death sentence to your love life that you have been fearing. It could very well be the opportunity to plunge deeper into the magnificence that is you being the man of YOUR dreams… attracting and bedding the women of your dreams.

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Why Do Men Change Their Behavior Around Women?

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woman censoring manWe’ve all done it.

Subtly or not so subtly, we guys will suddenly clean up our language and behavior when a woman walks into the room.

It’s called “Self Censoring”. Instead of freely speaking our minds, we somehow instantly start mouthing politically correct platitudes and kissing the ass of the dominant cultural rule book.

We have all been so fvcking brainwashed to be nice, good little boys around “female authority figures” (People with Vaginas), that we instantly hide our true personalities and behaviors in order to “please” or be accepted by women.

In case you’re wondering. Yeah. That has to go. The beauty of the leading edge change and transformation tools of NLP and Hypnosis is that we can change shit fast, forever. Even this often unconscious, knee-jerk reaction type of stuff.

In today’s video I go DEEP into this subject and give you some powerful take away tools to IMMEDIATELY start stepping into your power as a man.

If you haven’t yet jumped at the chance to get your daily personal mastery and peak performance posts WTF are you waiting for? It ain’t politically correct but it will get you what you want.

Do it now. Freedom and Power await you my brother.
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Intelligent Action

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In today’s in-depth “Rant”, Post, Declaration, monologue, training, coaching session, (whatever you want to call it), I go deep into the idea of not just holding your MASSIVE throbbing vision constantly on your mental movie screen, but actually beginning and continuing to take intelligent action towards it’s attainment.

Key To Cowabungah: Take Intelligent Sustained Action

It’s not until you actually leave home and begin a journey that you open yourself to the opportunities that will come your way along that “path with heart.” At points on every journey you may wonder what the hell you were thinking but hopefully you will by then be too far to turn back.

I climbed one of the high peaks in the Adirondack mountains last December with friend Mike Covey and his friend Brett. We started hiking at 7:30 in the morning and didn’t reach the summit until early afternoon. There we were met with vicious below zero winds that threatened to knock us on our asses… I took a brief glance at the view (which was incredible) but then turned and immediately started back down, cursing the crazy idea that had caused this 54 year old guy to climb a fvcking mountain with two guys in their mid twenties…

of course it got dark well before we got back to the car. The last couple of hours I was exhausted and sore and kind of pissed off that I had let these guys talk me into far more mountain than I really wanted to climb. But at the same time I affirmed to myself that, “You know, tomorrow I will be proud that I did this.” So that’s what I focused on. As well as focusing on getting back to the car safely and in one piece. So the mental part is crucial. But the visioning MUST be accompanied by intelligent consistent action.

Self Motivated Action Tools

1. Focus on what you want.

Focus on arriving at your destination. But then put one foot in front of the other until you get there. Appreciate every detour and challenge on this path as an opportunity to take your shit to the next level.

Looking back from your death bed you will be glad that you took the opportunity to actually LIVE.

2.  Ask yourself empowering Why and How Questions.

This forces your Unconscious Mind to begin to build “evidence procedures”, new beliefs and even convictions that support the presuppositions in the question. The one I suggest in the video is “Why is this Perfect?” You do not have to consciously answer the question. Just ask it repeatedly and your Unconscious Mind will do the rest. With each step coming down off that mountain near the end of my endurance, I literally counted my footsteps and chanted, “Why is this perfect?” as well as, “Why does this work out better than I can possibly imagine?”

3. Begin. Take Action. Keep going.

Reflect periodically to make sure you are still on the right path and how to do it better, more effectively, more enjoyably, more intelligently

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The Rubber Band Effect

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or “Why Change Isn’t Always Easy”


Imagine a rubber band.

You stretch it. And while you are using your energy to keep it stretched, it stays stretched. But the moment you let go of your input of energy, it automatically returns to the way it normally is.

Because that is the nature of rubber bands we don’t usually get too upset by the fact that it pretty much does that until it breaks.

We accept that is the nature of rubber bands. Because we understand how they work, we can use them to serve our purposes.  Connecting things. Holding things. We can even use them to strengthen our muscles. We can shoot them across the room. We can collect them in a huge ball.

Because we understand them we work WITH their natural tendencies to spring back to their original size and shape.

Because our unconscious habits and patterns of behavior are deeply impressed into our neurology, using will power to force a change often results in the old pattern returning after you stop willing it.

We call that the “Rubber Band Effect”

Unfortunately people often get upset and frustrated that the changes they say they want to make don’t always “stay changed.”

But the real problem is that we do not consciously know how to “hook” the new behavior or pattern into the “matrix” of your unconscious mind so that it STAYS in the new pattern.

So today we are going to talk about the difference between “Will power” and “Intention.”

Will power comes from the conscious mind. In fact your conscious mind IS your WILL.

Intention is essentially a directive from the conscious mind that is installed into your unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind is your IMAGINATION.

Where there is a conflict between
your WILL and your IMAGINATION,
IMAGINATION always trumps WILL.

It’s kind of like Rock, Paper, Scissors.

Will power always fails because your conscious mind can not always be conscious of that one idea. You are constantly being distracted by other things and your conscious mind is only capable of being aware of what you are thinking about right now.

On the other hand, your unconscious mind can hold dozens, hundreds even thousands of processes all simultaneously... outside of your conscious awareness… kind of like my computer is running simultaneous programs in the background while I’m typing this.

For example. Right Now. You reading this, thinking about this. You might be thinking about the last time you tried to stop a negative habit or change a limiting belief. You might be wondering where I’m going with this article. You might be imagining the thing you would like to change about yourself, your bank account, your love life, your health. Whatever you are thinking about right now.

You are not thinking about your left pinky toe.

Except that now that I’ve focused your attention there, you ARE now thinking about your left pinky toe.

But the whole time leading up to me bringing “left pinky toe” into your consciousness, your unconscious mind was taking exquisite care of your entire body INCLUDING your little tiny toe.

Even though you were not consciously thinking about it, your Unconscious Mind was on the job.

So essentially, intention is the process of programming your unconscious mind to “install” the new goal, behavior, or neurological pattern into the fabric of what your unconscious mind takes care of without having to be reminded.

One way to install a new thing, is repetition and constant conscious reinforcement.

This is what most coaches, teachers, trainers and our education system uses by default. Repetition, repetition, repetition, and more repetition… It’s boring and inefficient which is why people often forget to repeat the new behavior or pattern…. and then…

Snap! They go right back to the old habits…

Sometimes something just gets powerfully installed instantly and stays “in” forever. Usually it is something negative like a phobia that gets installed. Most people with any kind of phobia think it just happened. But actually a phobia is a “One time learning event” where your unconscious mind so powerfully got the message to make a new program, that it happened instantly and unless something equally powerful and intense releases it, it will stay in your unconscious mind forever.

The key is engaging intensity of emotion… It should be no surprise that your unconscious mind is ALSO the seat of your emotions…

So in order to make a change and keep that change, you have to:

1. Know how your unconscious mind works so that you can work WITH it instead of AGAINST it.
2. Know how to set your conscious intention so that it is accepted by your unconscious mind
3. know how to fully engage the most powerful emotional intensity you can…

Once you understand these secrets, you can pretty much write your own ticket for positive change in your life.

30369940_sOnce you understand how to make changes and keep them, you can systematically stop doing the shit that stops you from being, doing and having what you want and START being, doing and having what you DO desire for your life, career, health, love life etc.

The beauty of NLP and Hypnosis as well as EFT and Time Line Therapy(tm) is that these essentially are tools that enable and empower you to do just that.

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