or “Why Change Isn’t Always Easy”
Imagine a rubber band.
You stretch it. And while you are using your energy to keep it stretched, it stays stretched. But the moment you let go of your input of energy, it automatically returns to the way it normally is.
Because that is the nature of rubber bands we don’t usually get too upset by the fact that it pretty much does that until it breaks.
We accept that is the nature of rubber bands. Because we understand how they work, we can use them to serve our purposes. Connecting things. Holding things. We can even use them to strengthen our muscles. We can shoot them across the room. We can collect them in a huge ball.
Because we understand them we work WITH their natural tendencies to spring back to their original size and shape.
Because our unconscious habits and patterns of behavior are deeply impressed into our neurology, using will power to force a change often results in the old pattern returning after you stop willing it.
We call that the “Rubber Band Effect”
Unfortunately people often get upset and frustrated that the changes they say they want to make don’t always “stay changed.”
But the real problem is that we do not consciously know how to “hook” the new behavior or pattern into the “matrix” of your unconscious mind so that it STAYS in the new pattern.
So today we are going to talk about the difference between “Will power” and “Intention.”
Will power comes from the conscious mind. In fact your conscious mind IS your WILL.
Intention is essentially a directive from the conscious mind that is installed into your unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind is your IMAGINATION.
Where there is a conflict between
your WILL and your IMAGINATION,
IMAGINATION always trumps WILL.
It’s kind of like Rock, Paper, Scissors.
Will power always fails because your conscious mind can not always be conscious of that one idea. You are constantly being distracted by other things and your conscious mind is only capable of being aware of what you are thinking about right now.
On the other hand, your unconscious mind can hold dozens, hundreds even thousands of processes all simultaneously... outside of your conscious awareness… kind of like my computer is running simultaneous programs in the background while I’m typing this.
For example. Right Now. You reading this, thinking about this. You might be thinking about the last time you tried to stop a negative habit or change a limiting belief. You might be wondering where I’m going with this article. You might be imagining the thing you would like to change about yourself, your bank account, your love life, your health. Whatever you are thinking about right now.
You are not thinking about your left pinky toe.
Except that now that I’ve focused your attention there, you ARE now thinking about your left pinky toe.
But the whole time leading up to me bringing “left pinky toe” into your consciousness, your unconscious mind was taking exquisite care of your entire body INCLUDING your little tiny toe.
Even though you were not consciously thinking about it, your Unconscious Mind was on the job.
So essentially, intention is the process of programming your unconscious mind to “install” the new goal, behavior, or neurological pattern into the fabric of what your unconscious mind takes care of without having to be reminded.
One way to install a new thing, is repetition and constant conscious reinforcement.
This is what most coaches, teachers, trainers and our education system uses by default. Repetition, repetition, repetition, and more repetition… It’s boring and inefficient which is why people often forget to repeat the new behavior or pattern…. and then…
Snap! They go right back to the old habits…
Sometimes something just gets powerfully installed instantly and stays “in” forever. Usually it is something negative like a phobia that gets installed. Most people with any kind of phobia think it just happened. But actually a phobia is a “One time learning event” where your unconscious mind so powerfully got the message to make a new program, that it happened instantly and unless something equally powerful and intense releases it, it will stay in your unconscious mind forever.
The key is engaging intensity of emotion… It should be no surprise that your unconscious mind is ALSO the seat of your emotions…
So in order to make a change and keep that change, you have to:
1. Know how your unconscious mind works so that you can work WITH it instead of AGAINST it.
2. Know how to set your conscious intention so that it is accepted by your unconscious mind
3. know how to fully engage the most powerful emotional intensity you can…
Once you understand these secrets, you can pretty much write your own ticket for positive change in your life.
Once you understand how to make changes and keep them, you can systematically stop doing the shit that stops you from being, doing and having what you want and START being, doing and having what you DO desire for your life, career, health, love life etc.
The beauty of NLP and Hypnosis as well as EFT and Time Line Therapy(tm) is that these essentially are tools that enable and empower you to do just that.
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