(To Help You Survive Close Contact with Those Alien Beings We Call “Relatives”)
Chances are as we look ahead to this long Thanksgiving weekend, you are going to come into contact with people who you may or may not see very often.
You may love and adore them…
Maybe you can’t get enough of them and seeing them during the holidays is the most fun you can imagine having…
Or maybe you love them dearly… in small quantities, from afar…
Or you may be actually DREADING hanging out with them for 1, 2, 3, or more days. The slow, water torture that threatens your sanity and your digestive system…
Here’s a quick set of 5 Jedi Mind Mastery Tools to help you get through without chewing your own hind leg off to get out of the “trap” of “familial obligations”.
Here’s pretty much the same thing I just said in the video but “wrote-out” fer yah in case yer a “word person”.
- Take Response-Ability For Your Own Well Being.
Remember that you choose your thoughts and you DECIDED to be here. Take Response-ability for your own emotions and well being. These people may not “get” you. But you can “get” them. If your relatives weren’t actual real people but part of the built in “program” of the Jedi Warrior’s “Game of life”. How could you shine your spirit with their helpful input and empower yourself to appreciate whatever “lessons” they are helping you learn. In other words, stop thinking like a victim, and “use” this opportunity to “level up.”
- Change Your Focus. Remember that this is temporary. You WILL live through this. :o)
- Practice Laughing At Yourself.
Use this as an opportunity to learn to laugh at yourself a little more easily. Especially when Uncle Charlie starts handing out his somewhat crude and tasteless “gag” gifts… or starts telling the same jokes that he told you LAST year that were embarrassing to pretty much everyone present. It could also be your opportunity to try out some weird subtle joke that NO ONE else will get… Just drop that in and have fun watching while people either pretend to get it… (they don’t hee hee), or stare at you cluelessly and ask for an explanation… Then explain it in such minute detail that they start to fidget and groan… Simply do this every time uncle Charlie tells one of his… So that after awhile everybody tells HIM to stop because that will only get YOU going… Ok, so this one is a little EVIL! The point is find a way to have fun and enjoy the family dynamic, for a change.
- Let Go Of Attachment.
Speaking of change.
[This one is dedicated to my 88 year old dad and to my 55 year old self who is becoming more and more like him] This holiday season is a wonderful time to practice letting go of any attachment you may have to other people changing.YOU definitely know how to eat right and stay fit and healthy. THEY don’t. Or they do but don’t want to. Or they SAY they do but don’t really want to… whatever the case may be: They also don’t want to have you rub that in their faces. Particularly while they are rubbing holiday desserts into their faces.You love them. You want them to live a long healthy life. Well guess what?People pay me big bucks to help them change their eating and exercise habits and even when they WANT TO it’s a pretty big challenge.Attempting to get people who DON’T want to change to change, particularly over a holiday weekend is like trying to talk the spots off a leopard. It’s hard work. It’s pointless and you might get your head bitten off. So Let go of all that heavy concern about your loved ones. Focus on YOU staying on YOUR program. YOU thinking the kinds of thoughts that radiate compassion and acceptance towards yourself and your relatives. YOU having ONE helping of that awesome Coconut Cream Pie instead of FOUR. [Yeah I ate FOUR pieces of that amazing coconut cream pie. I’ll admit it. It was awesome. But now I’m back to my more moderate senses….]
- Take Charge of Your Mental Movie Screen.
If someone is really up in your face about something, practice shrinking them down and moving them off of your mental movie screen. This also works if you are attempting to get over an “ex” during this holiday season.
So there you have it, 5 Jedi Mind Mastery Hacks to help you get through the holidays, or should that be spelled, Holy Daze?
OH here’s a bonus one…
BONUS! Practice NOT bitching to each other about each other…
…behind each other’s backs. We are all feeding the beast of negative thinking in some shape or form, what the Toltecs called “The Parasite”. Let’s see if we can interrupt that pattern this holiday. What do you absolutely love and adore about your relatives? I’m sure there’s something… Get creative and generous if you have to. :o)
And remember, you can always say “no” next time. Or plan a trip to someplace YOU want to go… And go there by yourself or with someone who’s company you totally and completely enjoy.
This holiday the biggest take away for all of us is to “Stop Thinking Victim Thoughts”. You’re a Jedi. You’re a Transformation Nation Member in good standing. Think Differently. Love the present moment as it is and your holidays can be FABULOUS.
NOW go get ’em Tiger!
p.s. Hey! A Warm Transformation Nation Welcome to Rade from Sweden and Bryan from Iowa! Cowabungah!
p.p.s. On Monday, you may want to check out my course about mastering your mind for a change around food, and fitness.