My dad was heading back to my house on Wednesday morning after visiting with family in Hudson, NY and he somehow managed to bottom out his car going over a railroad crossing. His smashed oil pan caused him to change his plans, and make a detour by way of a tow truck to a garage in Catskill NY…
He wasn’t planning on spending several more days hanging out at my house… Had to change his plans…
It’s everywhere… and usually when you least expect it.
One of the cool tools that I use in my own life and teach to all of my clients and students is the classic NLP reframe that I call, “What if this is perfect?”
(I even wrote a little book about it that you can get on Amazon.com “What if It’s Perfect?: A Simple Course In Making Your Life Magical”)
It’s simply changing the context of meaning of something negative to make it positive. That’s it. Simple.
You can get upset by stuff that happens unexpectedly or you can re-imagine it as bringing a “hidden benefit” that just hasn’t been revealed yet.
There’s a quote from the Course in Miracles that helps me.
“You do not always know what is in your best interest”
Just because you can’t see it at the moment doesn’t mean it doesn’t support you in your ultimate success.
For example my dad and I were talking about it and I pointed out, “you know if it helps, consider that this “delay” or “inconvenience” might have saved your life. If you had gone a different route home or somehow crossed the RR tracks without incident, you might have been in a huge accident on the NYS Thruway or had rock fall off of a road cut somewhere along your drive or a chunk of ice could have fallen off an 18 wheeler and hit your windshield etc….
On the surface that logic sounds like a “justification” or a “PollyAnna” response…
But it is actually true. You will never know. The point is, shifting how you feel about any given situation is the ultimate personal power. It makes you feel lucky rather than victimized.
To his credit my dad was pretty chill about the whole thing. He chose to focus on the fact that he was fine, the car was fixable and he wasn’t somewhere way out in the middle of nowhere without anybody to stay with for several days…
And by the way this is not me PREACHING at you about this.
This is Me reminding MYSELF about this. I HAVE TO USE THIS A LOT because my old default program was typically to exaggerate and “catastroph-a-size” seemingly negative events and use them to prove to myself that I could never win, could never get ahead, could never get a break, whatever…
And this stuff really helps to shift things. I feel that I owe it to YOU to share this not because it’s “nice” not because it’s “positive” but because it truly helps.
So this is a discipline. This is not always easy to do. But it truly helps to put stuff into perspective and move on with your day, your week, your life…
So, you mind mastery message and assignment today (should you choose to accept it), is to take note of anything in your life that seems to not be going very well at the moment, and re-interpret it as positive in some way. You might even want to write out or say out loud, “Why does this work out better than I could possibly imagine?” or “Why is this actually a blessing in disguise, a cloud with a silver lining, a bullet dodged?” And since it’s still Thanksgiving weekend, how can you feel grateful for this change?
Got it? Good!
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Peace, love and groovyness!
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