The other day I had a meeting with a group of people who I had a business conflict with.
They are good folks.
I’m a good person.
But we were at a place where we couldn’t work out an agreement about a business contract. I did my own due diligence and released any attachment to having the outcome “go my way”. I was prepared to be okay with whatever the outcome was. That was good. But as the hour approached for the meeting I started to feel the old familiar anxiety begin to show up in my body.
I was trembling. I felt like I had just taken speed. My stomach was a little queasy.
So I began to run through some of my Crush Anxiety techniques. You can get all of them right here by clicking the link.
I had the presence of mind to actually make a video of myself using my own techniques.
Here it is:
So even though the meeting did not go my way financially, the bottom line is: we all have conflict. We all have moments when we would rather run away instead of stand and face up to someone or something that is challenging us.
We also may have to admit we are wrong or that things didn’t work out the way we intended or that a relationship isn’t working or that we can’t do something we promised to do.
Someone may be angry with us. And they may have good reason.
That is where the “tools” of transformation and personal master kick in. IF we have them we can USE them. If we don’t then we often suffer far more than is necessary.
Take away: We all experience pain. Suffering is optional. What we decide something means is the ultimate control we have over our internal experience of any conflict or confrontation.
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