I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced a parting of ways with a woman who you dearly cared about and loved. Maybe you looked great on paper as a couple but there was one thing that was a deal breaker for either her or you or both of you.
No matter how much love you have for someone chances are you will experience a break up at some point in your life. If you actually do the deep inner work as a man that will make you attractive to the kinds of women you want, you will actually experience this more.
Part of the “benefit” of being a shy guy and staying on the sidelines of life, is that…
It seems safer
And it might be. But on your death bed, looking back over your life, will you savor your time alone on the edge of the dance floor? Or will you savor the memories of the great sex and intense romantic encounters you had through out your life?
Personally, after a wonderful 2 and a half year relationship with a beautiful, sexy woman, I am now “back in action.”
We got along well in so many ways, we learned a lot. We laughed a lot. And the sex just kept getting better and better. Yet, as we continued to work on communicating openly and honestly with each other we hit a deal breaker. And so over the past two months we separated. It was a bit of a rollercoaster for both of us.
But the bottom line is that we really and truly each did our best to give it our all. There is still a huge amount of love there. The lesson is that we ultimately both loved ourselves enough to not settle or compromise in this one area.
If you are one of my readers who has never even been with a girl or woman, you just have to face the fact that Love is a Learning Curve. Really. The sooner you get started the sooner you will get the experience that the highest quality women demand.
There are no men or women who are in happy, healthy relationships today who didn’t experience the learning curve. There are no happy and healthy relationships that don’t have challenges. There are no happy and healthy couples who haven’t experienced heartbreak.
What you make it all mean is the crucial thing here
In NLP (neuro linguistic Programming) we call it “reframing” You take something in your life that appears “bad” and you flip it on it’s head so that it is “good.”
Another NLP concept that applies to dating and relationships is: “There is no failure, only feedback.”
So, for me, while I feel the sadness of this ending. There is also the opportunity to take my level of mastery with myself, women, dating, sex, relationships and even breaking up, to new levels. Fortunately I have done enough work in this area to realize that I have plenty of options and opportunities, I also have skills now that I couldn’t even imagine having 10 years ago.
(also guys, keep in mind that as you add experience in this area of your life, you become even more attractive to women).
One of my key resources is Ross Jeffries.
Recently I stumbled upon a new source of empowerment and skill building for men around dating. His name is Josh Pellicer and he has done what no-one else has. True to his own NLP training, he modeled what works with women both in evening or night situations like bars and clubs as well as places to meet women during the day and created an easy to follow system that takes the bewildering guesswork out of meeting women.
In my opinion he got it right.
In the last month or so I’ve pretty much bought every thing the guy sells and have immersed myself in it to the point where just walking in to a room is triggering attraction. He also has a clear and precise system for dating more than one woman at a time. This is crucial because if you only date one woman at a time, it slows down your learning curve.
And none of us has enough time to experience what we need to to discover what really works for us, what kinds of women are right for us and how to be in relationship ethically and honestly unless we can actually practice! By meeting and dating more women you boost your learning rate.
Does that make sense?
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