Busting Modern Myths About Men that Women “Logically” Believe But Don’t “Bio-Logically”…
… causing us guys to heroically attempt to live up to them, only to fail miserably, disappointing our women and ourselves for no good reason.
Myth One: “There is a man out there who is the ONE.”
Just visit any online dating site and peruse a few of the profiles women put up where they talk about their “match.”
The majority seem to believe there is actually, somewhere “out there” the perfect “Prince Charming” who will sweep her off her feet and be perfectly agreeable, companionable, honest and loyal. This man will be strong, handsome, patient, compassionate, able to show his feelings, able to empathize with her feelings, able to support her in a manner to which she would love to become accustomed, and generally be kind to small animals and children.
This man does not exist. What she is actually describing is a Labrador Retriever. And probably a female Lab to boot…
And what’s worse, the men who have sucked it in and attempted to be this agreeable, companionable and loyal “guy” basically get shoved into the friend zone. Women either inexplicably find “no chemistry” with this man or find him to be “unattractive” or downright repulsive.
Want to test this? Try showing your emotions sometime. Get all emotional and sad and weepy about something your boss said or didn’t say to you. “He doesn’t appreciate me” sniff sniff…
“Man up!” she’ll probably say. “Stop whining and do your job like a man!” If she doesn’t say it, she’s thinking it.
Or try this, tell her you love her and adore her and only want to be with her every single moment of the day…. then watch her run for the exit!
Ultimately the Modern Man that many Modern Women yearn for is a myth-o-logical, idea built up by years and years of movies and fantasy novels and feminist rallys. The “real” man she wants is a guy who doesn’t take her shit seriously. A guy who is truly the rock and lighthouse to her “ocean of emotion”. But she will never admit that. Mostly because she doesn’t even know it herself.
Ultimately she doesn’t want an equal. She actually wants a guy she looks up to, a guy who SHE wants to please and validate herself to.
This is kind of weird but by being the “nice” guy you thought she wanted you to be, you were being the exact opposite of what she really wants.
By trying to be the guy she wants, you are actually lowering your “status” in her “monkey mind” (we are primates remember). The guy she wants doesn’t change HIS behavior to be what SHE wants. Kind of weird huh? Illogical? Myth-o-logical?
But it IS…. “BIO-LOGICAL”.
So she may be looking for the One and admit that you have a lot of the traits she says she wants but she won’t be able to actually tell you Why she is Not attracted to YOU…. She may SAY she wants a guy like you. But what she really wants deep in her animal body is a man who can kill shit.
For her.
And protect her ass and her future children from bad guys.
This guy, she BIO-LOGICALLY wants by the way, doesn’t ask permission to kiss her or anything else for that matter. He just goes for what he wants.
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“Oh but she’s so HOT, Mark. I’ll never find anyone else as wonderful as her…”
Fuck that. Get her down off that pedestal. She takes a shit just like you do. And it smells just as bad as your shit. And trust me your shit smells bad dude… Sheesh! Use the air freshener next time.
Beauty is common. Depth is rare. You are now the kind of man who doesn’t care… Time to learn how to be unattached to outcomes.
You are NOT the ONE.
But imagine for a moment that you ARE the guy she will fvck without demanding a commitment.
Why? Because you are unashamedly selfish and self absorbed, into your own thing that is way more important to you than her… You need your space. And she respects that. Because if she gave you shit about it you would send her away or go away without a backward glance… and never fvck her again.
And she wants you to fvck her like the bad boy you are… a lot. But you are busy. Oh well. She’ll have to wait.
You are also “lazy” in some folks eyes because you don’t spend every second working in some fucking cubicle. Oh and you don’t give a shit how much money you have in the bank even if you are a millionaire… Of course if you’re really a millionaire she will chase you harder. Not because of the money but because you’re the kind of guy who puts his plans into action and takes charge of his own life and business.
She knows with you that it’s only a matter of time before you lose interest in her… because there are so many other women who want to fvck you… It just makes sense to her on some deep level… the BIO-LOGICAL level.
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Myth Two: “Monogamy is normal”
BUSTED. As the Bruce Cockburn song goes, “The trouble with “normal” is it always gets worse…”
Let’s be honest. Monogamy doesn’t exist.
It is a fantasy state that may flicker past for a moment when the sexual energy is good, but it is a total illusion… Think about it. Two people actually promise to not have sex with anyone else? For the rest of their lives? And how often does that bullshit promise they make to each other crash and burn?
Like mostly.
I currently have two girlfriends and I think about having sex with them all the time, except when I’m imagining having sex with other women.
The difference is I am being honest about that with my women and they are honest about the hots they have for other guys.
My last monogamous girlfriend was adamant that there were men (somewhere) who once they decided to be with someone only wanted to have sex with that one person. She BELIEVED this. I was attempting to be honest with her and told her I was attracted to somebody. Well she couldn’t handle that. She would rather be alone than with an honest man.
Maybe there are men who only want their woman (or women) to have sex with them. But those guys will still want other women…
Usually the same women who are searching for the “One,” seem to think that once they find this mythical man, he will only want to have sex with HER. For the rest of his life.
The bottom line is that after a few years of even the best sex, (make that days), any actual man with an actual penis and balls will want to fvck some other woman or women… If most men were honest they would tell you that the more sex they get with their “monogamous” partner, the more they want other women and strangely, the more other women seem to be attracted to them.
Truth be told. Women get bored too. In fact women have an even greater capacity for sexual expression than men do. More women also identify with being bi-sexual which totally increases their chance of a date on a Saturday night with someone OTHER than her main squeeze.
So ultimately even the women who preach monogamy aren’t that good at it either.
Myth Three: Men Pursue Women Not The Other Way Around.
This is sort of true but only in a certain context. We’ve all experienced a guy seeing a hot woman and charging after her like a crazed bull after a herd of heifers in heat.
Who doesn’t want to be wanted?
But many hot women understand deep down that even if the thing that everybody likes about her (her looks) is a total freak of nature’s lottery that happens to be culturally in style as “sexy” these days… It’s still nice that other people value it… But ultimately hot women want to be valued for more than their looks… of course plain women might feel the opposite.
Either way, they actually WANT to be the pursuers.
They want to look up to their man. A man of higher status. A man of power and prestige. A man of influence. A man pursuing his path and not really aware of her… or bothering to notice her… A man she can admire from afar and work to get close to.
The other reason that women are not attracted to guys chasing them, is that it’s too easy – Easy, not as in immoral, easy as in “just not challenging”.
In other words: boring.
For example: “He adores me and I’m a bitch to him because he’s a dull, boring fool who just lets me have my own way… boring, boring, boring.” Haven’t you ever overheard a conversation like that at a diner or bar?
The reason women love a bad boy is that he doesn’t tiptoe around them. He shows up and takes what he wants, gives only what he wants, says what he wants, does what he wants. And because what he wants is so fvcking cool and interesting, she wants to follow his lead.
She can also trust him because he is HONEST. If he doesn’t want to do something he says so. The “nice” guy will usually lie and pretend he WANTS to do shit with her that he is only doing because he thinks doing what she wants is what she wants…
Crazy huh?
The deep BIO-LOGICAL program my friend is “Her Pursuing YOU.”
But the question is, are you interesting enough for the kind of women you really want?
Or, Are you at this moment kind of boring? Come on be honest! Be honest with yourself. Are living the life you want to be living?
Imagine your dream is to travel the world fly fishing, making music with the locals, connecting with region’s sustainability farmers and hanging out with the hottest of the local girls while you’re in town…
Why aren’t you doing that?
Or, why aren’t you doing the thing you need to be doing so that you can get to that thing you really want?
Or maybe you are three steps removed and you have to do the thing that leads you to the thing that you need to do first in order to eventually do the thing you want to do…
It’s all good! No matter where you are on your “Massive Throbbing Path With Heart”, if you are pursuing your dream, it’s attractive to her.
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Reality check:
The Masculine INITIATES, and leads. The Feminine Follows.
He never Pursues. Pursuing is NOT leading.
She pursues him. Become that man and she will become one of your women. I can help you become that guy if you are not yet there.
Why is this stuff such a secret? It’s all about power baby. As a group women like having the power of guys wanting them. All of the advertisers in the world know they can con men into spending money on women in order to “buy” their affection. It doesn’t get men affection but it gets women lots of cool stuff without having to pay for it. How many Ferrarri’s have been purchased (or leased for the day) in order to impress some woman? External status can be faked. The real deal inside you? Can’t.
Cowabungah!
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