If you want to move from shyness, social anxiety, approach anxiety, fear of rejection (or even downright fear of women) etc. into a place where you live your life with authentic empowerment you have to do 2 basic things.
1. STOP doing the crap that doesn’t get you want you want, where you want or who you want.
2. START doing the things that DO get you what you want, where you want to go, who you want to be with and who you want to be…
Let us begin!
Check this out…
- Stop apologizing and explaining all the time…
- Stop lying. Stop lying to yourself. Stop lying to protect other people’s feelings. Stop lying to be nice.
- Stop playing the victim. It’s not your “fault” but you definitely created it. Stop debating this point and start living this truth.
- Stop worrying about what other people think. It’s outside of your circle of influence. What do YOU think?
- Stop looking for approval. You are no longer mommies little boy. You are no longer teachers pet. You are no longer seeking approval or validation from ANY woman. That doesn’t mean you become a shitty person, mean, cruel, insensitive, harsh, it just means that you don’t take her shit, her harshness, her cruelty, her rejection, her tests personally. You don’t take a 2 year old’s temper tantrum personally do you? Think of women like that. It’s all to get something, attention, money, power whatever. Stop playing that stupid game. You are fine right now. Always have been.
- Stop whining and complaining. If you don’t like the way things are or you are, fucking do something different and change that shit.
- Stop giving a way your power Particularly to the women you wish you were man enough to fuck. If you are powerful and self directed and willing to get out somewhere where live women will see and feel your energy, they will pursue you. A woman recently asked me, “Would you be open to having a drink sometime?” Even though she wasn’t my “type” I was up for it. we had a nice conversation and she revealed that she was a monogamist. I revealed that I wasn’t. today we are friends enough to give each other hugs when we see each other. But we don’t hang out. I hang out now with my guy friends.
- Stop giving a fuck whether or not you get pussy or have a good looking girlfriend. ALL pussy feels the same. Start enjoying it wherever it is offered.
- Stop being the guy she wants to marry and start being the guy YOU want to be.
- Stop doing what you thought your parents wanted you to do.
- Stop being a good little boy and helping hot women to slam your ass into their friend zone. You don’t need women for friends, you have men.
- Stop watching TV and the shitty news.
- Stop thinking that there is a woman “out there” who is somehow your “One”.
- Stop watching romantic chick flicks. Stop watching Disney movies. Stop watching “How I met Your Mother” (Watch the Shy Guy Help List of Provocative Movies)
- Stop answering women’s text’s and phone calls right away. You are busy. Take a number ladies.
- Stop eating and drinking sugar in all its forms (that might include alcohol and pizza). Stop self medicating with porn and fast food.
- Stop sitting on your ass all the time playing video games.
- Stop being ashamed of your sexuality or of being a man. You are NOT the dude who oppressed women for 10,000 years. You are unique and amazing in a ton of positive ways. Women WANT you to be a man.
Do this instead:
- Start Leading
- Start speaking your truth. Ask for what you really want. Come out of the closet and actually ASK for what you really want.
- Start owning your own shit
- Start focusing on what you can control and letting go of what is not.
- Start Focusing on what you think.
- Start Doing what you want
- Start Doing what is right for you
- Start Celebrating EVERYTHING exactly as it is… Even your occasional failure to celebrate everything exactly as it is.
- Start Learning and applying what you’ve learned intensely, compulsively, Obsessively. Until you have INSTALLED it in your unconscious mind. then learn the next level.
- Start loving yourself and thinking of yourself as “the One”.
- Start accepting that you may seem like an arrogant bastard to other people. Cool. So be it. Not everybody is smart enough to appreciate or like you. Whatever. Their loss.
- Start thinking like a self made millionaire.
- Start thinking and acting like the masculine archetypes you most admire.
- Start installing the unshakeable belief and CONVICTION that YOUR MASSIVE THROBBING VISION is your PRIORITY. EVERY SINGLE DAY.
- Start doing shit in 90 day intensives. Then reflect and intelligently set the next one.
- Start putting together your dream team and figure out a way for everyone to benefit from your success. Help them Help you by having what they do for you MAKE their career! WIN/WIN/WIN/WIN/
- Start taking intelligent action on the things that MAKE a positive difference in your short, medium and long term goals.
- Start asking yourself intelligent questions that presuppose WORLD FUCKING DOMINATION.
- Start working standing up. Get rid of your chair. get a standing desk.
- Start delegating to other people
- Mentor and train younger people to do shit that they can make a good income at and enjoy doing.
- Start eating a paleo diet and doing intermittent fasting.
- Start moving your ass throughout the day. INTELLIGENTLY. That means no more long boring bullshit cardio or zumba classes. Instead you are going to explore High Intensity Interval training and SLOW burn resistance training AND anything that is fun that involves moving. Dance, hike, play ball, climb, swim, paddle, wrestle, box, yoga, tai chi, run, ski, snowshoe, snow board, water ski, sailing, splitting wood etc.
- Start working on increasing your income in multiple streams and continually reduce expenses Focusing on prosperity and abundance 80% more than on reducing costs.
- Start stepping into your sexual power. Unapologetically. Now.
- Start developing life long friendships with GUYS. Dudes. Other men. That way when some woman wants to slam you into the “friend zone” you can say honestly to her, “I have plenty of great friends but I’d prefer to be your lover… if you aren’t smart enough to be open to that, whatever….”
Ultimately I can help you because I have overcome all of the same obstacles you are struggling with. I’m also a kick ass Master Practitioner and Trainer of hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic programming… these are tools that can save you years and years of trial by error….
One more thought…
Your body is an animal. You have been training it for years to get all tight and nervous around women. You’ve been training it for years to watch porn instead of training it to attract real, live, warm bodied women who are magnetically attracted to you.
It is now time to Train it to be who you truly want it to be…
Just like a dog will test you to see if you “mean it” by leaving a sit or a down…or selectively hearing your “come” command…
your unconscious mind will accept a suggestion for a while then drop it to see if you notice…
If you do notice and firmly reinforce the message your UCM WILL comply.
Ultimately it wants to please you but it is also an animal. It is inherently programmed to discard the stuff you are not serious about and install the stuff you deeply, powerfully, repeatedly focus on.
So for a moment imagine this:
You know how walking down the street you can see half a block away, a woman who you would like to get to know? She has the body type you love, the sense of style you admire… You know instantly you desire her… even though you don’t know her, she seems like someone you WOULD like to get to know…
Now let that thought go for a moment and consider this…
Now I want you to imagine being the kind of guy that she sees from half a block away who exudes, confidence, success, freedom, power, virility… Imagine her noticing YOU. And DESIRING you… Imagine HER doing a double take as you walk by… I’m not suggesting she will stop you mid sidewalk and ask for your number… but she might ask you for directions or the time of day… THAT. My friend is possible and totally doable for you.
But do you know how RARE it is? It took a pretty thorough search of pictures available in my stock photo service depicting women watching men! Plenty of the opposite.
Let’s get started!
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